OMG they are Near To Die but God Save them
I would like to dispel the notion, however, that it’s just religious people who shed an intense fear of dying as they grow older. I found the same kind of matter-of-fact comfortableness with life’s end among elders who were vehement nonbelievers.
Take Trudy Schaffer, for example, whom I interviewed in her art-filled and book-lined apartment in New York City. If there ever was an urbane New York intellectual, it is Trudy. A highly self-aware, analytical individual with a vast range of life experience, Trudy is adamantly not religious. She told me: “I believe nature is God. My mother and her mother came from a religious family. But my father did not believe in religion and so we did not grow up with religion.”
Like Rosemary Brewster, however, Trudy told me about the change in her fear of death as she aged. She explained that the panic over death is “a younger person’s game.”